It is five years this November since Dennis and I met, or more accurately collided, through the efforts of good friends, Jan and Ted. Each of them liked each of us; why not put us together and then there would be four where there had only been two? This idea which I had last encountered as a high school senior now seemed---at late middle age---wise and sophisticated. There might be some hesitancy and humor at the beginning, but the underlying logic would carry the day. There we would be, Dennis and I, compatible together as two with our compatible friends which makes four.
Not so. I was deputized by Jan to pick up Ted and Dennis at the Flint airport; the guys were arriving in late afternoon from Los Angeles, flying in for a long weekend to celebrate Jan’s birthday cum housewarming party. Unlike their grade school counterparts, grown-up birthday parties can be attached to mature events (buying a house). They are still attended, however, by 90 percent friends and 10 percent people your mother made you invite (former spouses, difficult co-workers, people whose party you attended). Useful too for social engineering.
Having driven the men to Jan’s house (which is also Ted’s Flint home), I returned home to change clothes, check on my mother, and then re-appear at the party. By the time I arrived, the birthday revelers were in full swing, warming the house from wall to wall. People sitting on the stairs, smokers banished to the basement, Motown and ZZ Top in the living room, university administrators and deans amid younger faculty dressed in their grad school best. Dennis found me, we talked a bit, and then not knowing anymore what to do than I had in high school, I dived into shop talk with favorite colleagues while Dennis made time with a beautiful woman sitting on the stairs.
The rest of the evening is lost to legend. Dennis needed to buy a bottle of Bushmills as a birthday gift; we left the party to shop, decided to go by my house for him to meet my mother, and finally return to the party. The conclusion of the evening has now merged with a dinner later that weekend and a long talk at The Torch (Flint’s oldest and smokiest hangout). Dennis won me over with his total ease, his humor and funny stories of his family’s past, his courtesy and kindness. We communicated daily on email for the next four months until I arrived with Jan in Los Angeles in February of 2004. A new life had begun; it’s now the only one I know and it’s full of amazing joy. Like Dennis here in our Michigan kitchen. He is making tomato relish out of the last green tomatoes left on the vines before winter of 2008. We should label the bottles “Happy Anniversary.”
I love this account; speaking as one of the "principals," I celebrate the two of you and the "commune" of mature joys we have established. Let's hope these pleasures continue for years to come. Now what about that first night in LA has been expunged by the historian, who controls history?
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